I just wanted to pen down something that made sense to me recently...
It way seem obvious but we always forget that the fact is, people don't care..
What I mean here is.. people don't know and can never know about things that is not present.. in other words, people can only judge by what is in front of them.. and that makes it hard to care about the other person..
Example.. Your friend comes to you and says that he was late because he got stuck in traffic.. what would your response be? Most likely you'd asked which road he / she took and empathize.. Now, put a stanger in that same situation.. what's your response? You won't care much to ask anything now would you? Worst if that was your first encounter with him / her, because you'll assume that being late is his / her normal behaviour.. and unlike your friend which you have data from past encounters, the need to care fades to exist.. just because of the present judgement...
I'll save the details for some other time.. but what I'd like to share for now is the fact that, because of this;
Perception = Reality
And it will always be like that, because we will always judge a book by it's cover first as we can't see straight into the contents.. embracing this fact would surely help you in dealing with self expectations in terms of human relationship.. stay positive but not too optimistic.. ;)